Breath is the stuff of life. In, to fill the soul within, Out, to infuse the world with it. But should we forget to engage in one or the other, soon we will discover we have little for anyone or anything and the vision of our lives be lost.
It is soooooo easy to fill others isn’t it? So easy to give ourselves away again and again and again. For a time it feels fabulous, exhilarating, liberating, until… it doesn’t.
One day we wake to discover that we are so weak from the exhale into the world, that our inhale can hardly come.
But this magical thingy happens doesn’t it?
First, we feel the need to breathe in.
If we don’t do it, we feel a stronger and stronger pull to shut the door and go in.
If we still don’t listen and act, our bodies simply shut it for us.
Colds, flues, illness, disease never happens by accident, they happen with purpose.
Sometimes enlightening and life-altering by nature of its wake-up call; sometimes down right devastating and we are only left to reel and wonder and try to breathe again. Sometimes the lesson is for us; sometimes the opportunity is for the local or global family to open eyes, hearts and minds in compassion and take action for the greater good.
But it always, always, happens minor – then it happens major.
Are you prevention or cure focused? Do you want a solution or mull the problem over and over, more comfortable in survival than thrival mode?
These are tough and sometimes daunting questions for many.
The reason for this, a stray from my happy-happy-joy-joy posts?
Because sometimes life is messy… and for good reasons.
Perhaps to teach us,
to empower us to choose again,
to practice whatever it is we know we need most to master in this life.
A great scene in the movie Evan Almighty…
God (the fabulous Morgan Freeman) is talking to Evan’s wife as she struggles with how she and her husband had all these great plans to be closer as a family, to spend more time together, to change the world together… and now he’s gone off the deep end. He thinks he’s some kinda Noah and he’s busy building an arch, because he simply must follow his original intent and his heart.
She wonders how to deal with all this and God says…
“Let me ask you something.
If someone prays for patience, you think God gives them patience?
Or does he give them the opportunity to be patient?
If he prayed for courage, does God give him courage,
or does he give him opportunities to be courageous?
If someone prayed for the family to be closer,
do you think God zaps them with warm fuzzy feelings,
or does he give them opportunities to love each other?”
When you say, “I want more balance in my life. I want to be more MindFULL. I want to fuel my life with enough in-breath, that when I breathe out, I feel I only have more and more to give without ever depleting my own supply.”
Do you think you will receive these things at your door? Or will you be presented with opportunities to prove to yourself and the world about you, that you are willing to do whatever it takes to create these things for yourself?
When we are on the right track, we KNOW it.
When we are off track, we KNOW it.
IF WE LISTEN.
This week little Nathaniel and Liam got colds. Mommy and Daddy got colds. No biggy, for now. But when these little thingys arise, we take heed. And so yesterday we rested and cuddled and fed ourselves in body and heart well. Tomorrow Liam and I head away on our retreat and Daddy and Nathaniel have time together.
And in this, we take a deep Breath IN.
Write a list of the little and big thingys you will do this weekend to
as a family,
or as a kindred community.
And do that!
Here’s to the Ins, and Outs and Ups and Downs, that empower us to BE exactly what we pray for.